DEAR ABBY: My husband of 58 years is an alcoholic, but not a mean one. He used to be the life of the party, but now his days consist of playing games on the computer and going to his friend's house to drink. He has lost so much weight. He used to like to go places, but no longer. The kids have noticed the changes and so have the grandchildren. I am at my wits' end because I don't know what the matter is. His doctors say he's fine, but he's not. What can I do now? -- OUT OF IDEAS IN TEXAS
DEAR OUT: Your husband may need a second opinion about his health. While there may be nothing physically wrong with him (yet), it appears there may be plenty wrong with him emotionally. He may suffer from depression. He may need to be evaluated neurologically or psychologically.
Something has driven his change in behavior, but no one can solve what's wrong until you get to the bottom of it. You may be able to gain insight by attending some Al-Anon meetings and discussing this with others who are in the same boat. You can find them at al-anon.org/info.
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