Three years ago, a former supervisor introduced me to the phrase "devil energy." At that moment, the term resonated deeply with me and illuminated a connection I hadn't made before.
I realized that the concept of gaslighting was one I had overlooked in the context of my workplace experiences. It wasn't until about five years ago that I managed to shift my perspective on the overall term "abuse."
For most of my life I relied on a single term to describe the painful experiences of mistreatment- ABUSE. This term is broad and all-encompassing, reflecting the harsh reality that such abuse can manifest in myriad forms and settings. Abuse can manifest at home, in a romantic relationship, within the workplace or just about anywhere. Indeed, anyone from a parent, boyfriend, husband, boss, supervisor, general manager can be the source of this detrimental behavior.
Nonetheless, I began to analyze and identify specific behaviors exhibited by certain supervisors, managers, and directors that displayed narcissistic tendencies. This shift in understanding allowed me to recognize the toxic dynamics in my workplace environment.
Protect your mental health. This is critical. Toxic bosses are emotionally poisonous, do what you can to create some distance between your mental health and their abusive behaviors. View their words and actions as separate from you. Think of their behavior as a passing phase. Remember gaslighters at the core are insecure people who seek self-validation through bullying others.
Focus on reaffirming your value by reminding yourself that the gaslighter is the dysfunctional one, not you. Engage in exercises and meditations to improve your mental well-being.
Some managers and supervisors are so self-absorbed that they create elaborate narratives. Such behavior is often referred to as gaslighting. The insidious tactic can make the lives of employees even more difficult. Many of these employees are already facing challenges in their roles and in their home life.
Some employees find themselves in a precarious situation where the very individuals who should provide support - instead deepen their struggles. This toxic behavior not only undermines the team's morale but also exacerbates the hardships faced by those who are already vulnerable.
In some environments, like in large retail stores -- employees feel confined and unable to voice their concerns. The sensation of being trapped can evoke intense memories. Thus, brings forth feelings of vulnerability and defenselessness in moments when one might be under attack. 
It fills me with a deep sense of sadness to contemplate how some individuals can act overwhelmingly self-important and brutally mean towards another human being. These people will go to any lengths to advance their agendas, even its to only feel better about themselves. Their unprofessional behavior is often at the expense of others.
Take, for example, an entry-level employee slogging through their day for minimum wage; their struggles can be exacerbated by the callousness of those who believe their position grants them the right to bully, gaslight or undermine.
Individuals in leadership roles, regardless of gender, often possess a striking ability to evoke strong emotional reactions in others, sometimes even leading to tears. This phenomenon appears to serve their own emotional and professional agendas, as they derive a certain satisfaction or fulfillment from having this level of control over those around them.
Often, the emotional and psychological toll of enduring such behavior can be overwhelming. Undoubtedly, leading many to question whether it is worth the fight to stand up against this kind of mistreatment. The pervasive culture of fear and uncertainty may discourage employees from speaking out. Thus, they grapple with the potential repercussions of challenging authority.
It is typical for narcissists, bullies, and the like to target those who seem vulnerable or naive. This behavior reflects poorly on the abuser, harasser, or narcissist. Furthermore, it reveals their preference for targeting seemingly weaker individuals.
In America, where the allure of material wealth often overshadows the importance of personal dignity, power dynamics in professional environments can be particularly insidious. This toxic culture can permeate all employment levels, affecting even those in minimum wage, entry-level positions.
Within this environment, innocent individuals may find themselves unfairly targeted and subjected to a cycle of intimidation and disrespect, highlighting the pervasive nature of abuse.
Big box stores like Walmart and Burlington Stores often take their entry-level employees, especially minimum wage, part-time workers for granted. For example, retail chains like Burlington Stores are always hiring. A few years ago, I noticed Burlington Stores posted a chart on their website showing that a significant percentage of their entry-level employees are internationals. Burlington's employee histogram revealed that approximately 80% of their entry-level employees are internationals.
It seems that large retail corporations often overlook long-term, part-time employees who have been with them for several years. It matters not if you do a good or great job at work. Yet, what often matters is, are you favored by management? Some new hires recognize this unfair situation quickly and decide to leave the company. Unfortunately, the committed workers often find themselves sidelined and even pushed out the door. Subsequently, making room for the perpetual cycle of - new hires.
While this hiring strategy is frequently linked with promoting diversity, firsthand experiences at the store level can sometimes contradict the company's mission.
It's entirely understandable to feel as though the light within oneself is slowly fading. Such a heavy burden can weigh down your spirit, and it's crucial to recognize the profound impact this kind of experience has on your overall well-being.
Addressing workplace gaslighting, speaking up and bringing more awareness to this abhorrent behavior is paramount. Regulations should be in place to protect all workers from abuse and tactics like gaslighting.
The constant stress and anxiety of navigating a toxic workplace environment is akin to walking on eggshells. Not to mention, can be emotionally draining and harmful. Life is far too short and precious to spend time in a situation that stifles your joy and diminishes your sense of self-worth. It's vital to prioritize your happiness and seek an environment that nurtures your growth and encourages positivity.